KamaSutra

Pleasures of Foreplay..

2007-05-11T12:30:00.000+08:00

Foreplay in actual terms means stimulation, sexual and sensual. This is essential for an extended act of love. Lovemaking is more than just the act. There is an involvement of all the senses and they all work in co-ordination to take you to great heights of pleasure and passion.

With the batting of an eyelid, men get into the mood, but women are made differently. They need to be coaxed, pampered and taken there, to ignite the fire. The true essence of making love is the active and equal involvement of both partners. So first, stimulate your partner with love and fruits of passion...

KISSING - Do you remember your first kiss? Thou named it the 'fire of passion.' There seemed to be no start and no end. It was like the endless knot. Have you forgotten how it all felt? If you have, its time you got back. Kiss like there is no tomorrow. Feel the softness of the lips, and the beating of the heart. Sense the growing fervour. Something as small as a kiss, can take your lovemaking to heights you have never experienced before. Eat the lipstick off her and whisper the flavour in her ears. Smell the perfume on her neck and snuggle her. You could have her ears for dessert.

SEXY MESSAGES - Get started even before you are started. Hide sweet sexy notes, in his wallet or her make-up kit. Stick messages on his shaving mirror. Tell him, how his after- shave drives you up the ceiling. Surprise him with your favourite piece of lingerie, in his travel bag, when away from you. What good are cell phones if not put to use. Text a few incomplete messages leaving your partner fill in the rest. "When I get home I'm going to..." or "I love it when you..." or "Today lets..." Imagination runs wild and may your partner make the best of it.

MASSAGE - Sensuality is at its best when rubbed in. Pick up scented oils. Give your dear one a massage that will remain with him/her for a long time. See that nothing interrupts your kneading. Switch off your phones, spread towels if you are using the bed, if you like it hard, use the floor with protection so that it does not get slippery with oil. Liberally spread the aromatic oil from head to toe. Smooth long strokes, is the mantra here. Move your hands throughout using your body weight and not arm strength. Run those naughty fingers on the toes, feet, ankles, navel and along the stomach. Do not rush, it will spoil the fun. Just let go and pamper. Slow movements with soft whispers, will reduce your partner to a puppy wanting for more. Just wink at your helpless pet, nothing more, let cravings take on.

KINKY GAMES - Get imaginative, get naughty, and derive your own ideas for foreplay. Do not rush through. Lovemaking is an art and food for the soul. Feed and nourish it, for long lasting good health. Always care for your partner and make them feel nice and wanted. Make love with love.

EAT YOUR WAY TO BETTER SEX AND BETTER HEALTH!

2007-05-11T12:20:00.000+08:00

In an article I recently came across, there is the belief that a drop in body weight (for those who are overweight) can increase sex drive and overall well-being as well as decrease the risk factors for such ailments as diabetes and heart disease. This is overwhelmingly so in women.

It makes a lot of sense when carefully reviewed. When we lose weight, we feel good physically and often have more energy and stamina. There is also a mental component, especially for women, which makes us feel more desirable and more willing to step our of our heavily clothed comfort zones.

So, what are some practical ways to add more health, energy and vitality to your life that is sure to follow you to the bedroom? Here are 5 tips recommended.

De-Stress With Exercise – Even if it is a brisk walk during lunch or a few minutes of silent meditation and breathing at your desk, simple stress relief can do wonders for all aspects of your life. Stress saps energy and vital nutrients from your body, leaving you wiped out and ready to consume all the comfort food in your pantry or at the local greasy spoon. So, before you reach for that gallon of Ben & Jerry’s, stop yourself and realize that medicating yourself with food isn’t going to do the trick.

Eat Well – Set yourself up for success by only buying healthy food and by bringing your lunch if possible to work with you. Prepare meals beforehand as much as possible to avoid a “rush” to get food to the table. Try to be mindful of your food as you eat it so that you can avoid eating so quickly.

Snack Better – Pass by the cookie and chip aisle at the store and don’t even think about bringing soda home. If you buy it, chances are, you WILL eat it. These foods have empty calories. Not only will they expand your waist line, they’ll send the chemicals in your body on a rollercoaster ride with the initial euphoria then a fatigued crash and burn.

Drink Water – Keep a special container just for water in your fridge and refill it every night. Choose a container that you like and take it with you wherever you go.

Give Yourself a Break – If you slip and consume an entire large pizza with all the toppings, don’t beat yourself up about it. It will only cause stress that will make you want to eat more – believe me. Stick to an eating plan that works for you. No matter how healthy and wonderful an eating plan is – if it doesn’t work for you, you will not stick to it.

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Teenage Pregnancy..

2007-05-09T19:51:00.000+08:00

The occurrence of births to teenagers has revealed a new trend amongst the youth in this country. They are now more daring to commit the unthinkable.. and when the outcome involves pregnancy, some are even willing to sacrifice a life.

Some teenage pregnancies occur as a result of the sexual inexperience and an inadequate understanding of the couple in question. Instilling family values, knowledge about religious obligations and on reproductive matters are necessary to prevent unintended adolescent pregnancy.

Who is at risk of teenage pregnancy?

There are a number of risk factors for teenage pregnancy. They include:

family situations with regular conflict between members
violence and sexual abuse in childhood
unstable housing arrangements
poor school performance
low socioeconomic background
family history of teenage permanencies
low maternal education
father's absence
low self-esteem

Impact on mother/baby

Teenagers as a group have significantly higher complication rates both during pregnancy and delivery. In teenagers aged over 16 years, these are associated with poor antenatal care, smoking and inadequate diet. In those under 15 years of age, complications may be caused by biological immaturity. Teenage mothers have a higher risk of postnatal depression than older women.

Babies born to teenage girls are at higher risk of being born prematurely and of having a low birth weight. Children born to teenage mothers face an increased risk of physical neglect and abuse, poor school performance, substance abuse and of being teenage parents themselves.

It is also common for teenagers falling pregnant not to complete school. This lack of education can result in long term unemployment or poorly paying job options. Teenagers may also experience alienation from their peers and family.

Pregnancy terminations

Due to lack of knowledge about pregnancy and its consequences, a couple may feel trapped in such a situation which as a result compel them to do something drastic. The most appropriate solution would be for the couple to tie the knot and raise the child as they should. However, if concerned couple refuse to accept the reality of an unwanted pregnancy, they may attempt to either terminate the pregnancy through abortion ... or worst, give birth to the baby and dump it where nobody will find it.This has been known to happen. And one that should be put an end to.

Teenage couples need to be equipped with all the knowledge about pregnancy, specifically on the process of conception, the growning of a child in the body, and the implication of having a child in such a tender age... so who's responsibility is it to educate these youngsters? Don't you think it's about time to push aside the taboo placed on educating children about sex? Sex education is necessary not only to prevent further teenage pregnancy but also to educate youths on being responsible beings.

Safe Sex..

2007-05-09T19:45:00.000+08:00

Nobody has a body to die for. Safe sex is always better! It's fun, and you don't have to worry as much.

Safe sex means making sure you don't get anyone else's blood, semen, vaginal fluids, or breast milk in your body -- and protecting your partners too! Condoms, latex surgical gloves, and plastic wrap are the only ways to protect yourself and your partner from STDs and HIV, but they're not foolproof. You've got to use them correctly every time you have sex.

Condoms

The best condoms for anal and vaginal intercourse are lubricated latex condoms. It is not recommended to use lambskin condoms because they don’t block HIV and STDs. Polyurethane condoms are good, but may not protect as well as latex (they are still being tested). If you're allergic to latex, please see "Trouble Shooting." Using lubricant will make things go smoother and give you added protection. Lube is especially great for women the first time you have intercourse, or if you tend to get sore. But always use a water-based lube (such as KY Jelly, Astroglide, Aqua Lube, Wet, Foreplay, or Probe). Oil breaks latex. Don't use vaseline, hand creams or lotions as a lubricant. Also, treatments for yeast infections contain oil and will break latex. Oil is good for salads and cars, not for sex! You can buy water-based lube and condoms at the drugstore.

Always use a condom!!!

If you're going to suck your partner's dick (blowjob), put a condom on it first. Try non-lubricated or flavored condoms for this. Whatever you do, don't get semen (cum) in your mouth, because you could get an STD or HIV that way. If you have a sore throat or small cuts on your gums (say from brushing your teeth), there's a risk of HIV going from the semen into your blood stream.

If you're doing someone with a sex toy -- vegetable, dildo, vibrator, or whatever -- put a condom on that thing! Don't switch the toy from anal to vagina, or from one person's body to another, until you put a new condom on it.

Some people think that putting on a condom is too much work when you're supposed to be having fun. But it's easy for condoms to be really fun and erotic...But main thing is to always play safe sex only!!

Strip Tease Your Partner..

2007-05-06T19:39:00.000+08:00

Are the nights getting dreary dark? Thinking of adding some spice tonight, then grab your highest heel and get ready to rumble to the finest music that will make him bend for more. It's time for exotic dance performance only for your love. Join the age-old trend of seduction, Strip Tease your partner.

Stripping of clothes, which rules most of the nightclubs in metropolitan cities today, originated at the ancient days of Sumerian tablets. Various sessions for all shapes and sizes with no age bar is introduced by many strip tease classes to master the game of love. Erotic dancing has gone from the gentlemen's club to the latest intensive fitness and workout trends too. Pole dancing has become a legitimate form of exercise to many as it allows expressing oneself in a sensual artistic manner. Sessions can be sophisticated and classy right down to naughty.

Things you will need

Before getting started these are the things that you should get ready for the night

Romantic and sexy music to strip to that fits your style & mood. Get original strip to it CD that combines sensual sounds of Enigma, Madonna's Erotica or David Sanborn's Smooth Sax.
Aromatic candles, but if you want him to see you go wild then let the lights burn.
Wine or drink with ice.
Naughty outfit and lacy lingerie
Use a stripper pole if possible if not play the charm with a chair and seductive looks.

Get Started

Before performing the most awaited act, practice some of the steps from the DVD. Do not shy off if you have never danced before, because this is the right time to burn the heat. Learn how your body moves and perform steps you are comfortable with.

When you are all set to perform your mystery you, give a call to your love and ask him to drop home early for he will be blessed with a seductive night. Ask him to give you a ring atleast 10-15 minutes before he is near your house. Make sure to put on your esteemed cloth and make up half an early before his arrival that you do not annoy him by making him wait outside the door for long. Darkened the bedroom and light the aromatic candles.

When the door chimes of his arrival, instruct him to blindfold his eyes. Lead him to your bedroom and make him sit comfortably on the seductive throne. Uncover his eyes with the sexy music playing at the background to see you're new you. Begin your move to arouse sexual desire by displaying the naked body in motion. To keep the spice for long you can even delay your tactics by removing additional clothes very slowly and putting clothes or hands in front of just undressed parts.

Handcuff him on the chair if he is trying to get on top of you at your very first move. To intensify the situation sexily discards an item of his clothing. The basic strip tease will discard these items gradually and slowly, jacket, skirt, high heeled shoe, sides of stockings, ping the garter belt, unlock your bra and lastly the priced scanty.

Make sure to remember these golden rules while performing the erotic dance.

You are not his sweet angel right now but his seductive private dancer. So, walk up and down, flirt, tempt, tease, flick your hair around and gyrate your body with the rhythm. Throw your clothes off on his face. Let him smell them instead of you. Make him beg to release him from binding.
Do not let him touch you with anything, but touch yourself the way he wants to touch you.
Borrow the celebrity seductive tricks. Keep one leg in front of the other, heel lifted, whenever possible. Copy Liz Hurley's or any other seductive Hollywood star poses.
Maintain eye contact throughout the performance

Use these tips and let the lackluster nights turn to be the best moments of your life.

Kamasutra: Lying down..

2007-05-06T19:30:00.000+08:00

The Deer-woman has the following three ways of lying down:

The widely opened position

The yawning position

The position of the wife of Indra

When she lowers her head and raises her middle parts, it is called the 'widely opened position'. At such a time the man should apply some unguent, so as to make the entrance easy.

When she raises her thighs and keeps them wide apart and engages in congress, it is called the 'yawning position'.

When she places her thighs with her legs doubled on them upon her sides, and thus engages in congress, it is called the 'position of Indrani' and this is learnt only by practice. The position is also useful in the case of the 'highest congress'.

The 'clasping position' is used in 'low congress', and in the 'lowest congress', together with the 'pressing position', the 'twining position', and the 'mare's position'.

When the legs of both the male and the female are stretched straight
out over each other, it is called the 'clasping position'. It is of two kinds, the side position and the supine position, according to the way in which they lie down. In the side position the male should invariably lie on his left side, and cause the woman to lie on her right side, and this rule is to be observed in lying down with all kinds of women.

When, after congress has begun in the clasping position, the woman presses her lover with her thighs, it is called the 'pressing position'.

When the woman places one of her thighs across the thigh of her lover it is called the 'twining position'.

When a woman forcibly holds in her yoni the lingam after it is in, it is called the 'mare's position'. This is learnt by practice only, and is chiefly found among the women of the Andhra country.

The above are the different ways of lying down, mentioned by Babhravya. Suvarnanabha, however, gives the following in addition:

When the female raises both of her thighs straight up, it is called the 'rising position'.

When she raises both of her legs, and places them on her lover's shoulders, it is called the 'yawning position'.

When the legs are contracted, and thus held by the lover before his bosom, it is called the 'pressed position'.

When only one of her legs is stretched out, it is called the 'half pressed position'.

When the woman places one of her legs on her lover's shoulder, and stretches the other out, and then places the latter on his shoulder, and stretches out the other, and continues to do so alternately, it is called the 'splitting of a bamboo'.

When one of her legs is placed on the head, and the other is stretched out, it is called the 'fixing of a nail'. This is learnt by practice only.

When both the legs of the woman are contracted, and placed on her stomach, it is called 'crab's position'.

When the thighs are raised and placed one upon the other, it is called the 'packed position'.

When the shanks are placed one upon the other, it is called the 'lotus-like position'.

When a man, during congress, turns round, and enjoys the woman without leaving her, while she embraces him round the back all the time, it is called the 'turning position', and is learnt only by practice.

Thus, says Suvarnanabha, these different ways of lying down, sitting, and standing should be practised in water, because it is easy to do so therein. But Vatsyayana is of opinion that congress in water is improper, because it is prohibited by the religious law.

When a man and a woman support themselves on each other's bodies, or on a wall, or pillar, and thus while standing engage in congress, it is called the 'supported congress'.

When a man supports himself against a wall, and the woman, sitting on his hands joined together and held underneath her, throws her arms round his neck, and putting her thighs alongside his waist, moves herself by her feet, which are touching the wall against which the man is leaning, it is called the 'suspended congress'.

When a woman stands on her hands and feet like a quadruped, and her lover mounts her like a bull, it is called the 'congress of a cow'. At this time everything that is ordinarily done on the bosom should be done on the back.

In the same way can be carried on the congress of a dog, the congress of a goat, the congress of a deer, the forcible mounting of an ass, the congress of a cat, the jump of a tiger, the pressing of an elephant, the rubbing of a boar, and the mounting of a horse. And in all these cases the characteristics of these different animals should be manifested by acting like them.

When a man enjoys two women at the same time, both of whom love him equally, it is called the 'united congress'.

When a man enjoys many women altogether, it is called the 'congress of a herd of cows'.

The following kinds of congress-sporting in water, or the congress of an elephant with many female elephants which is said to take place only in the water, the congress of a collection of goats, the congress of a collection of deer take place in imitation of these animals.

In Gramaneri many young men enjoy a woman that may be married to one of them, either one after the other, or at the same time. Thus one of them holds her, another enjoys her, a third uses her mouth, a fourth holds her middle part, and in this way they go on enjoying her several parts alternately.

The same things can be done when several men are sitting in company with one courtesan, or when one courtesan is alone with many men. In the same way this can be done by the women of the king's harem when they accidentally get hold of a man.

The people in the Southern countries have also a congress in the anus, that is called the 'lower congress'.

Kamasutra: Embraces..

2007-05-06T19:27:00.000+08:00

The two kinds of embrace take place when the lover is standing are:

When a woman, clinging to a man as a creeper twines round a tree, bends his head down to hers with the desire of kissing him and slightly makes the sound of sut sut, embraces him, and looks lovingly towards him, it is called the 'twining of a creeper'.

When a woman, having placed one of her feet on the foot of her lover, and the other on one of his thighs, passes one of her arms round his back, and the other on his shoulders, makes slightly the sounds of singing and cooing, and wishes, as it were, to climb up him in order to have a kiss, it is called an embrace like the 'climbing of a tree'.

These two kinds of embrace take place at the time of sexual union:

When lovers lie on a bed, and embrace each other so closely that the arms and thighs of the one are encircled by the arms and thighs of the other, and are, as it were, rubbing up against them, this is called an embrace like 'the mixture of sesamum seed with rice'.

When a man and a woman are very much in love with each other, and, not thinking of any pain or hurt, embrace each other as if they were entering into each other's bodies either while the woman is sitting on the lap of the man, or in front of him, or on a bed, then it is called an embrace like a 'mixture of milk and water'.

Babhravya has thus related to us the above eight kinds of embraces. Suvarnanabha moreover gives us four ways of embracing simple members of the body, which are:

The embrace of the thighs.

The embrace of the jaghana, i.e. the part of the body from the navel downwards to the thighs.
The embrace of the breasts.

The embrace of the forehead.

When one of two lovers presses forcibly one or both of the thighs of the other between his or her own, it is called the 'embrace of thighs'.

When a man presses the jaghana or middle part of the woman's body against his own, and mounts upon her to practise, either scratching with the nail or finger, or biting, or striking, or kissing, the hair of the woman being loose and flowing, it is called the 'embrace of the jaghana'.

When a man places his breast between the breasts of a of Vatsyayana woman and presses her with it, it is called the 'embrace of the breasts'.

When either of the lovers touches the mouth, the eyes and the forehead of the other with his or her own, it is called the 'embrace of the forehead'.